Wednesday, January 16, 2008

Kinda in a Funk?

You see... I have this friend. She is very near and dear to my heart! And each week we try to get together to grab some lunch and catch up. But with the NY shower and the holidays, it seems we haven't been able to see each other in close to 4 weeks. Which, is really not a problem, I just kinda miss her :)


The issue I have, is that every week, I drive down (about 30 min) to pick her up and take her to lunch. My schedule is easier to manage (since working from home) and I like to get out of the house and drive a bit. The drive is not the problem.
You see she works for this company that I think treats her pretty badly, but I understand... a job is a job! So I make those kinds of "sacrafices" (if you will (don't know if that is the right word)) just to see her, because she means that much to me.


Well, there have been occasions where we have had to re-schedule do the company saying they were taking everyone out to lunch or surprise birthday lunches and so on. Really, at that point (I was normally in the car drivng and halfway there) there was nothing I could do. So I didn't sweat it, I just got over it. Sure it was a bit of a pain in the ass, but I knew it wasn't her fault, so whatever.


So our standing date is normally today. Every Wed we say. I mark that date on my calendar and just plan stuff around it, so that I don't have any scheduling conflicts. Well, Mon I email her, make sure we are on for Wed and she confims. Great! Can't wait to see her!! But then, yesterday, I get an email saying someone for the company needs her to help with treats for a meeting, can we move it to Thursday? Well, this week is booked solid. So I ask if her employee and her can go to do it Thursday (as the meeting is not until Friday), she says no, the other woman doesn't want to do that.


Now, to be honest, that hurt my feelings. I don't know... but I feel like, I have a pretty busy schedule with life and having a baby and so on... right? I mean, I am sure we ALL feel this way. But if we plan (on Mon) to have lunch (on Wed), wouldn't you tell that co-worker you already have plans? Or am I just blowing this out of the water? Am I just getting bent out of shape for nothing (probably b/c I am hormonal and pregnant)... you tell me???

4 comments:

Tina Vaziri said...

Yeah if you already had it planned she should have stuck with it after confirming on Monday. Not cool, yo, not cool.

Kelli said...

I hate when people break plans- hate it. Maybe your friend is too scared to ask her coworker to get treats another day? It doesn't seem like such a hassle to change treat days- rather then have you drive 30 mins out of your way... I don't know- this is a tuff one. I always end up getting my feelings hurt then looking back and feeling stupid about it. I hope it all works out- make her buy you lunch next time for skipping out!

cassette45 said...

hmm. It's tough. I understand what it's like to work for a company that asks for a lot of you time - even when you're supposed to be off. While I agree she given you preferance and should've given you more notice, I think she prolly feels obligated to put the company & coworkers first.

You should talk to her about it though. She prolly doesnt think about how much effort it is for you too to schedule this each week. Then at least she'll be more careful about it in the future I would think

cassette45 said...

hmm. It's tough. I understand what it's like to work for a company that asks for a lot of you time - even when you're supposed to be off. While I agree she given you preferance and should've given you more notice, I think she prolly feels obligated to put the company & coworkers first.

You should talk to her about it though. She prolly doesnt think about how much effort it is for you too to schedule this each week. Then at least she'll be more careful about it in the future I would think