Remember...

So, remember the MOH? Well... I recently found out that she had found a guy, had fallen in love and is moving to CA to live with him.

For a long time she has worked for a wine bar, and apparently, she met this guy (who's family owns a vineyard or something like that (I did hear this infor 2nd hand)) at a wine thing in Napa. They fell in love and now she is going to move into his cottage. I mean, can you get any more romantic?

I was so happy when I heard that, that I put all feelings aside, and decided to send a text.

Me: Just heard the news about the guy. Congrats!!! Good luck with the move as well!

MOH: Thank you.

Ok... I mean, I understand we haven't spoken, but we did have almost 8 years of friendship. Plus, you were my maid of honor for God sake. All I get is a Thank you. Nothing else. I wasn't the one that didn't show up. I was the one that forgave from the get go. Now this? Nothing about B? Nothing about, I saw a picture of your new son and he is cute. Freakin nothing!!

I am seriously hurt. I guess I should have never sent anything, but damn, I was truly happy for the girl. She has had it rough, and it seems it is all finally coming together.

I just really thought I meant more.

MOH

So... this morning, still being a little heartbroken about no response from the MOH, I sent her a text. Which is really the only way she responds so this is what I sent:

Me: To be honest... I am a little disheartened that we have not been able to connect. I want you to know I was so worried on Sunday, I called XYZ hospital and they said no one had been there all day or was there currently by your name. I don't care about the reason you didn't come, I just want to let you know, I am worried about you and I am always here if you need me.

Now, keep in my mind, I thought... if she did lie, this would give her an out. She tends to stress about things like, "oh no, I didn't show, now she hates me, I am too embarrassed. I could never talk with her again." So I thought, by sending this message, it would convey, I certainly don't hate her and I didn't care that she didn't come, I was concerned.

Her: Take care of yourself.

I am sorry... WHAT??? That is what you have to say? I get the brush off. Holy shit... am I missing something here? Did I miss silent girl code I was un-aware of? I thought I was being nice, and now THIS??

Any advice... I mean really? What the hey! Did I do something wrong?

Bring it ON!

Today it is going to be 84 degrees. YIPEEE! Yesterday, I got a little sun bathing in on the lounge chair, and I gotta tell ya, after the snow, sun, and snow last week. This felt damn good! I love me some SUN!

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Houdini cat is still missing :( However, my chihuhua did find a bird carcus outside my door, so maybe he is hanging around and eating well? It is sad, but I don't think he is dead, so that keeps my hopes up!

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Can I just say that MOH is MIA! I have tried calling numerous times and I get nothing, no response, no nothing. I am going to take that as a bad sign. I think I am giving up.

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Bought this new Lavender bubble bath and it is HEAVEN! It really helps with the Braxton Hicks. I swear, every time I go to the darn grocery store it happens. Yesterday, hubs and I were in there for only 30 min and MAN that was all it took to have it happen for almost 2 hours. OUCH! Seriously, I think the grocery store has it out for me.

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Today, I plan to bake a pie, PUT IN THE CAR SEAT, and mop. WOW! Exciting!

Got any exciting Thursday plans?

Baby Showers and Such!!!

Yesterday was such a beautiful day! My 2 favorite people, Missy and Michelle, threw me the most amazing baby shower! It was filled wtih delectable food, fun games, and great company!! Those 2 girls really did an amazing job with EVERYTHING! It was truly a special day! Not to mention, it was about 65 degrees, so everything was just perfect!

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On another note my Houdini cat has done it again! After the last fiasco, hubs and I decided to put bird netting all over the yard, so he couldn't jump out. This worked for quite sometime, until yesterday, when we went outside and realized he must have tried to jump through, failed, and knocked some of it loose, only to try again and succeed. Now, keep in mind the cat is de-clawed, and he has a belled collar, but he has brought me multiple bird or grasshopper presents, so I don't think it has slowed him down. Normally, we walk outside and he is meowing in the neighbors yard, for us to rescue him.

However, yesterday, he was no where to be found, and last night a kind neighbor dropped by his leash. Apparently, their dog sniffed it out and they wanted to return it.

We have not heard or seen from out little guy since Sat night, and I am getting increasingly worried. I understand cats get lost and if he is gone for good I will have to get over him but I am just a little heartbroken. If you would keep Sammy in your prayers for a safe return, I would appreciate it!!

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And finally, I need some advice...

When I got married, back in 2004, I had an entirely different set of friends. I didn't have too many close girlfriends... actually, I only had one. So at my wedding my maid of honor was that friend, and my sister in law was the other bridesmaid.

Anyway, over the years, me and my MOH (maid of honor) have drifted apart, but always tried to remain as close as we can be. You see, she keeps a different schedule. She is a waitress at a very busy wine bar, downtown, and I live in the burbs, with a husband and I have a corporate job. Not to mention I am very pregnant.

So, when I was making the baby shower list, she was, naturally, the first person I invited. I was excited to finally see her and spend some time with her. However, about a week before the event, my friend said there was no RSVP from her. I got worried. I know she would have to request it off, so I texted her to make sure she was coming. She said she never got the invitation, which made me feel horrible, and I told her the details and she said "Of COURSE, I will be there, its your baby shower for gosh sake!" I was so happy that was all clear, I told my friend and waited for the day.

Well, yesterday, while at the shower, I get a text saying her phone did not spring forward automatically, which to be honest, I had a hard time believing, but went on with the day as if it was no big deal. You see, she is always late, or has car trouble or something happens. She is just kind of one of those friends that it comes with the territory, not the most reliable if you know what I mean. There have been numerous occasions where I will be sitting at the restaurant and she will text me saying she just left, sorry. And, after years of knowing her, I have tried to put it behind me to the best of my ability. Now don't get me wrong, I used to bitch and bitch about it, until I realized it solved nothing. So... as time went on, as I got older, I just let it go. And yesterday, I did the same. She was going to be late, no worries, I just let it go.

So, the party goes on, the games are played, the cake is eaten and the presents are opened. No sign on her. I looked around and I got a melancholy feeling. I mean, she was my MOH, I thought she would at least be here for this. As I am getting in the car, I see I have another text: It said got into a car wreck, headed to xyz hospital, sorry, call you later. So now, I start to worry... is that REALLY what happened, OMG I feel horrible. So I call. No answer, which is as to be expected if your in the hospital. SO I get home, call the xyz hospital and ask for the ER. They tell me no one has been there with that name and no one is here now with that name. Truthfully, my heart sinks. I don't know what to believe. Did she just not come? (I mean it wouldn't be the first time she flaked out on a party or something important) or did she really get hurt? So... I call her phone again. No answer.

Then, about 20 min later I get another TEXT saying I should wear my seatbelt and something to that effect and call you tomorrow. I have a bruised rib but really it was more mental than physical. Which, at this point, I don't know how to respond? Why was she still texting me? I mean if your in the hosptial, I would at least like a call. So I text her back, get well and call me tomorrow.

There are 2 problems I have with this:

A. Everytime there is an event or a party or something we have planned, she has car trouble. A flat tire, its in the shop, or whatever. (Plus, she doesn't have a junk car, she has a nice, new car!)

B. If she really made it up that she was going to the hospital, and made me worry even worse than before, that would be horrible. Plus, why would you only text? I called twice... don't I at least deserve to know if you are ok? To me, my gut told me it was a person TEXTING in sick to work. I just didn't have a good feeling about it.

So... I don't know what to do if she calls. Should I tell her my concern about her not showing up? Should I ask her what happened? What should I do? I feel like this was a really big event to miss, and I understand if your going to be late, but this kind of feels like the last straw... you know? What would you do if it was your friend?