Sunday, June 15, 2008


So, remember the MOH? Well... I recently found out that she had found a guy, had fallen in love and is moving to CA to live with him.

For a long time she has worked for a wine bar, and apparently, she met this guy (who's family owns a vineyard or something like that (I did hear this infor 2nd hand)) at a wine thing in Napa. They fell in love and now she is going to move into his cottage. I mean, can you get any more romantic?

I was so happy when I heard that, that I put all feelings aside, and decided to send a text.

Me: Just heard the news about the guy. Congrats!!! Good luck with the move as well!

MOH: Thank you.

Ok... I mean, I understand we haven't spoken, but we did have almost 8 years of friendship. Plus, you were my maid of honor for God sake. All I get is a Thank you. Nothing else. I wasn't the one that didn't show up. I was the one that forgave from the get go. Now this? Nothing about B? Nothing about, I saw a picture of your new son and he is cute. Freakin nothing!!

I am seriously hurt. I guess I should have never sent anything, but damn, I was truly happy for the girl. She has had it rough, and it seems it is all finally coming together.

I just really thought I meant more.


Kelli said...

I'm so sorry that she is just blowing you off... what a weird deal!?

At least you are doing the right thing and being the better person.

Anonymous said...

Wow, I'm sorry that you didn't get a better response. At least you can know that you made the right move and contacted her, now it's out of your hands.

I hope your family has a Happy 1st Father's Day!!

Sarah said...

I don't even understand what is going on with MOH?! You are being more adult than I would; I would text back with "Did I do something wrong because you are being really distant and rude when I reach out to you!"

But you did what you could I guess just move on as hard as that sounds.

the student said...

I'll admit, I'm a but of a lurker. I found your awesome blog through another friend, and am just hooked. Your son is the most precious baby I have ever seen!

Anyways, I just wanted to say that I'm sorry about your friend. I had the exact same experience with my best friend from college--we were absolutely inseparable for so many years, and then she just drifted. And I never heard back; she stopped calling, stopped returning emails and phone calls. She never congratulated me on my engagement, didn't RSVP to my wedding, no-showed at my shower. It was all heartbreaking. It still hurts to think about. Hopefully you and your MOH will find some way to rekindle and start your friendship up again. But for me, I just have learned to look at it as this: people come into our lives, sometimes forever, sometimes just for a short stay. But there is always something positive about their stay, they always teach us something, help us grow, help us open our eyes, and give us experiences we never would have had otherwise. And I guess I just learned to be grateful for that and stop taking it personally.

I'm sorry I lurked so long!! :)

Ashley said...

I'm so sorry she couldn't be a better person but you tried, and thats all you can do.

Hope you and hubby are having a great first fathers day! :)

Julie Q said...

you're better off with her moving to cali and disappearing (again).. i'm sorry she hurt you!

Anonymous said...

Aw hon, I'm sorry! At least you were the bigger person here. I know it's hard not to feel hurt, but at least you also know that she really isn't worth it anymore! *hug* you deserve better girl friends :) xoxo