Sunday, July 13, 2008

Shhh... it's private!


Well my dear freaders, I have a feeling the good Lord above is telling me to make my blog private.


You see, I have been reading other blogs and there seems to be anonymous people out there who just want to leave crap comments and be anonymous and not let you know who they are. Not to mention, it is a damn scary world, and the whole reason I started this amazing outlet was because my family is scattered throughout the country and I wanted them to be able to see what was going on with me.


Now it seems, I have lurkers from every part of the world, who don't care to share why they read or what they get out of this blog. Now don't get me wrong, I absolutely love the dear freaders who constantly leave comments and tell me to come and decorate their nursery, but it seems they are far and few between.


After Martini and Valley Girl had to delete their blog for one reason or another, I realize no one is safe. Not even this little mommy blog with a big Italian heart.


I do, however, wonder what your take is? Someone once told me, whatever you put on the internet is out there, so you better watch what you say. While others tell me they read my blog all the time and get joy from it.


I am just pretty torn. I think, in terms of safety, I should make it private, but then I think, aaahh who the hell am I. No one reads this little outlet but my friends and family. UGH! I am just so torn it is bugging me.


Ok... enough said. You all let me know. Private or not? And if you are a lurker... feel free to come out of hiding and tell me what you enjoy about the blog?

17 comments:

Lisa said...

I went through this too... but I decided to stay non-private. But I also totally understand when mamas want to go private... so if you do...here is my email, b/c I would love to keep reading!
lisadugan02@yahoo.com

tiedtogetherwithasmile said...

I hate that we have to worry about what we put on our blogs because people are going to judge and be rude when they don't even know you. I really like your blog because I think you're real and don't censor yourself...and of course because Brady is ADORABLE! My blog is still public because I haven't had any problems, but I can understand where you would want to be private with it if you have people being rude. I hope you can make a decision that will make you happy!! Also, sorry about the novel :)

Sarah said...

Scary indeed, as you know I just posted about something similar. I really enjoy blogging but every so often I get really creeped out and really the only thing I can do is not think about it. I guess you just have to think if the positives outweigh the negative.
Hope that helped!

Lindsay said...

Ok, so I must be slow, bc it wasn't until last week sometime, that I even realized that my blog could be viewed by the world. Seriously, I just thought it was bloggie world and only people in here could read....Not that you could type in your titles from your blogs, in the Google bar, and UP pops your info! So, it kinda freaked me out, that I typed in my daughters name and HELLO, there we were...for the world! It's funny that you ask this question, b/c I was just talking to my mom today and she asked if, "just anyone" could read what I wrote.....anyhow she suggested that I make it private. I started this blog for Averee with the occasional venting, but have to agree with good ole momma....the world's just not a safe place anymore. So, yes I vote private and it's what I'm doing as well!

Nanette said...

That sucks that people like to hide behind a veil of anonymity and be jerks!

Blogging can be a bit scary, though. I've heard of some uneasy things happening, although I like to pretend that I'm free and clear from all of that because I try to put out positive vibes. Doesn't help, though. I've had my share of anon. asshats.

If you go private, I'd love to be part of the elite crew who gets access. I'll run the obstacle course and eat the wacky bug parts, if that's what it takes...and if it's approved for pregnant women. ;)

twentysomethingandclueless said...

Oh no - I didn't know Martini deleted her blog! I loved her blog!

Anyway, I have a sort of compromising solution - you can switch over to wordpress.com, which allows you to post password-protected entries whenever you want. All your family/friends/freaders would have to do to access them is have a password that you could provide in advance. That way you could post the more personal/sensitive information but still have some entries available for new readers to come check you out. :) What do you think?

Anyway, hope that helps!!

Michelle said...

As you know my blog is private. I was creeped out that a triplet's mom's blog that I read pictures were stolen from her blog put on myspace by someone that was acting like they were her children. She went private after another reader told her about it. It just creeps me out that you can right click a picture and save it to your computer. You can invite up to 100 people to view your blog so that should probably cover everyone you know who looks at it. Anyways, I am so for PRIVATE!!!

Michelle said...

Oh and by the way it is so easy to go private and for people to set up an account to look at your blog. Just thought I would add that in.

Kristen said...

I would be so sad if you went private! It seems everyone is dropping out these days. However, I do understand your need for privacy. You need to do what is right for you and your family. I do wish you the best of luck!

Stephanie said...

I have often wondered the same thing - private or not. But for now, I am still public. I'd love to have access if you go private though. You are in my reader and I love baby updates and whatnot.

And it's nice to know there are other Italian NY Giants Fans that live in Texas ;)

Happy Monday!

the student said...

Aw, I'm glad I de-lurked then! I would hate to think I was one of those creeps you were worrying about! I swear, I am harmless :)

That being said, I totally understand wanting to protect your life and your baby. So, if you go private, I would not question you one second. That being said, if you are worried about cruel comments, you could disable the anonymous comments function so that at least you would know who was commenting.

As for the privacy and safety issue, I think that is just up to you :) Keep us updated! I love reading your blog and think you are one stellar mama!

Kristen said...

can you do it by invite only? :)

Sicilian Mama said...

Hi Andrea ~ I suppose I shall de-lurk for you here. :) I am currently about 6 1/2 months pregnant and found your blog while I was searching for pregnancy stuff. I've kind of become addicted to baby/mommy blogs! And then I found yours and found that you are Italian and was hooked!

As for going private - I completely understand. Mine is private for the sole reason of I only wanted certain people able to view it. I've had too many problems with non-public blogging before and decided that a blog about my pregnancy and baby would be protected. So if you go private, I totally understand. I would like to continue reading yours, but I also understand not wanting strangers to read! Anyway, if you want, email me and I can send you an invite to my blog.

scargill said...

Hello

I'll de-lurk as well. I can't remember how I come about your blog, but I love it. I am currently four months pregnant and I loved your insight on being pregnant and the ups and downs of it all. I would love to continue reading your blog (and if you go private please consider inviting me).

Take care.........

Shanna

Lynsey said...

I go back and forth on this too..you hear the horrors about people knowing what you do, your schedule, what you and your kids look like...it's scary. However, I just make sure that I talk about things after the fact and be careful what I write. The bad part about being private is you don't make new blog friends, but then again if your intention is for your family and your close friends, there you go. I do enjoy your blog, your son is a doll!

Katelin said...

i've sort of felt the same way with martini and valley girl both having to delete, but at the same time i have friends and family everywhere that use my blog to keep up with me. so i don't know.

but if you do make your blog private, i'd love to be one of your readers still :)

Aimee said...

I have no idea how I found your blog & as you can see, I just now found it again, forgot to bookmark it the first time. I think you were on someone's blogroll & since I am Italian too I had to have a look. Love it! You look so happy & then I found your recipes too!!! If you go private I would understand, but would like an invite. My mom & I are going to make your risotto stuffed peppers this weekend.