tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post4528406435787057840..comments2023-05-21T09:20:05.641-05:00Comments on My Big Fat Italian Life: Baby Showers and Such!!!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-44441070979942544922008-03-11T05:10:00.000-05:002008-03-11T05:10:00.000-05:00First of all- you look absolutely gorgeous! You're...First of all- you look absolutely gorgeous! You're one of those pregnant ladies that I envy. I'm afraid I will blow up! <BR/><BR/>Secondly, I am sorry you're going through this with your girlfriend. This is my advice. If you are really that close, you will have no problem talking about this and getting it resolved. If you're nervous about the confrontation, let it go, accept her for the flaky person that she is, and move on. If you do confront her however, I say that you don't build it up and preface it with a "can i talk to you about something?" just talk to her like nothing's wrong and you're having a daily conversation. If you don't, she'll immediately be on the defense. Also, even though you're hurt and i think you should tell her- don't make it all about you. Ask what's going on with her...why she feels like she can't tell you the truth- tell her you love her. The more comfortable she feels and the more unconditionally accepted she feels, the more likely it is for her to open up. <BR/><BR/>Good Luck! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-66562787165257969392008-03-10T22:52:00.000-05:002008-03-10T22:52:00.000-05:00Ugh, what a crappy situation to put you in! It sou...Ugh, what a crappy situation to put you in! It sounds like your MOH is totally lying, and I think you should confront her but in a non-confrontational way, just saying something like what ashley d said, saying you were worried so called the hospital and they said no one under that name had been in that day, and see how she reacts. It's pretty obvious when someone is lying to your face, so maybe decide what you would say/do if she is blatantly lying.<BR/><BR/>Personally I think if she does continue to lie to you, she isn't worth being a real friend with. Assuming she was lying, she came up with a horrible excuse that made you worried on YOUR baby shower, which is really bad. If she was unable to make it she should have said something earlier instead of lying about wanting to be there and then lying again when she didn't show up. That's just rude, and completely inconsiderate.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, your shower looked so cute! Your belly is ready to burst! heehee <BR/><BR/>Tell us what happens with your MOH! And, I hope your cat comes back soon. Poor you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-41941520113218914612008-03-10T17:14:00.000-05:002008-03-10T17:14:00.000-05:00Aw your shower pics are so cute! Glad you had such...Aw your shower pics are so cute! Glad you had such a fun time! <BR/><BR/>As for the MOH stitch, I think everyone else has basically already posted my idea. Confront her and tell her how you feel.Katelinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15994241556437259884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-59308169916120658852008-03-10T16:17:00.000-05:002008-03-10T16:17:00.000-05:00That sounds really crappy, I'm sorry she's putting...That sounds really crappy, I'm sorry she's putting you through this instead of telling you whats up. On one hand you can confront her, but if it's going to put more stress on you to deal with her right now, I would ignore her for a little while.Tina Poehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14890138353657962397noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-85603191613667132602008-03-10T16:09:00.000-05:002008-03-10T16:09:00.000-05:00first - your shower was quite fun and that picture...first - your shower was quite fun and that picture of my mom wrapping the streamer around your belly is funny. <BR/><BR/>I'm all for truth with Miss MOH. You've never been the type to hold back and I certainly don't think it's out of place to ask for the truth of what's really going on. It's not fair that on your special day you have to continually be reminded that she isn't around.elysahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01395699373559337834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-62653506800122025342008-03-10T15:34:00.000-05:002008-03-10T15:34:00.000-05:00aw man, no Mom-to-be should have to worry about th...aw man, no Mom-to-be should have to worry about that on her shower day!! Its a tough call, its definitely worth saying something like "I called the hospital b/c I was so worried about you, they didn't say you were there" <BR/><BR/>OR, I would just take it and realize that maybe she's just like that and you shouldn't spend too much time fussing over it (now if only I can take my own advice!!) <BR/><BR/>Well you looked gorgeous anyways at your shower!! :) :)Julie Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00875635439264990221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-77481358980752821892008-03-10T13:17:00.000-05:002008-03-10T13:17:00.000-05:00Hi,It's Amy Donovan. Your Mom sent me to your blog...Hi,<BR/><BR/>It's Amy Donovan. Your Mom sent me to your blog. First I have ever been to.<BR/><BR/>I have been married 27 years. My MOH and I got into a disagreement over my life being better than hers. She either ignored me or spent time tearing my life apart. What I didn't understand is that she was hurting. 26 years later I know nothing about her. This was my best friend for over 10 years and now I know nothing of her life. 26 years later the significant issues seems so insignificant. Friends take time and understanding. Your mother and I have been friends for 28 years, we have had a couple of difficult times and been through a lot together (like babysitting you (-:) no disagreement would have ever been worth not knowing her, you, your brother or your Dad. Give thought to the fact that your life seems to have it all right now, sometimes that is difficult to participate in. Try a simple lunch where you go to her instead of asking her to come to you. Don't talk about problems or how great or bad things are just be a friend. See what happens. It may work or not - life is totally unpredictable but at least you know you did everything you could to keep it together. You Mom might remember when this happen as she was my friend that helped me get throught it. Best,Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-61920052471850902742008-03-10T11:13:00.000-05:002008-03-10T11:13:00.000-05:00I'm glad that your shower went well and you had fu...I'm glad that your shower went well and you had fun with your friends.<BR/><BR/>As far as the MOH, I think you should try to talk to her about it. I would just be honest and say you tried to call her at the hospital and they said she wasn't there, so you're wondering what really happened. I hate situations like these because I'm horrible at confronting people. But I think if you want to make the friendship work, it would be best to talk to her about it.Ashley Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13825257889564999602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-44534376371681562372008-03-10T10:29:00.000-05:002008-03-10T10:29:00.000-05:00one of my good friends is going thru a eerily simi...one of my good friends is going thru a eerily similar situation. her MOH has told odd stories about why she has not returned calls, etc. recently it was that she had a miscarriage which was later determined she made up. why don't people just tell the truth?Michelle and the Cityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02376890270664282390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-20627003636638892722008-03-10T09:21:00.001-05:002008-03-10T09:21:00.001-05:00Sarah: I am due in 4 weeks! Thanks for the advice...Sarah: I am due in 4 weeks! Thanks for the advice too! I think I have to confront her at this point.Andréahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08865804094063195010noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4472609248861317350.post-16089399312400099042008-03-10T09:21:00.000-05:002008-03-10T09:21:00.000-05:00I think you should confront MOH, if she can't make...I think you should confront MOH, if she can't make it that is one thing but she should not be making up such drastic lies. She should think of the way it makes you feel to receive a text that says she is on her way to the hospital (if it isn't true) I think you need to confront her. I am glad the rest of the day went well though!! when are you due?Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04240956769826578754noreply@blogger.com